Mar 30, 2020
Most singles thought that dating (online or otherwise) was hard enough before this Coronavirus. As a long time dating coach, my heart goes out to those singles who were really looking to meet someone before this happened. Now they’re at home, wondering when they can go out again. No one knows whether it’ll be one month or nine. So, is there any way to make some progress in dating, given the current limitations? Here are some suggestions:
Do video Dates
Video dates are not as good as meeting in person but they definitely feel more intimate than phone or email. You can look into each other’s eyes, talk about your day and keep each other entertained. You can daydream and discuss all your future outdoor dates when all this is over.
Use Facebook Dating Platform
I know many people were not thrilled with FB Dating but I already know one couple who met and got engaged on there. And as time goes by, I believe that FB will improve their matching algorithm, as they have so much information on everyone. They currently offer lots of online groups with like-minded singles and while that was original and helpful before, it’s essential now. You can look for singles with the same core values or interests and begin talking to them. As time goes by you can become FB friends, which opens it up to you seeing more of their community and everyday posts, which is an advantage that other dating apps don’t have. It’s a way to slowly integrate each other into your larger world. If you’re interested in learning all the advantages of Facebook Dating, as well as suggestions about dating mindfully on there, get my book, Facebook Dating: from 1st Date to Soulmate
Do the 36 Questions
It is possible to get to know someone better and to even fall in love this way. Research shows that strangers who did the 36 Questions sometimes fell in love and married. Or purchase a Book of Questions on Amazon to continue to get to know each other when the 36 Questions are done.
Do a 6 Ft Apart Walk
It can help mentally to get outside and to connect with someone else but clearly you need to be careful and follow the CDC guidelines. A dater that I know told me that they took a walk through the park with a date. They were 6 feet apart, wearing masks and they sat on separate benches. The bright side? If that’s your first date it’ll be one that you’ll always remember and an original story to tell your grandkids about how you first met later. They won’t believe it!
Write Letters Letters or Emails
For those singles that were dating someone and moved home during this Coronavirus scare, you can get to know each other the old-fashioned way through letter-writing (or the modern version, email). I watched the movie ‘Dear John’ yesterday on Netflix and that is basically how they fell in love. Another movie where the couple continued their courtship through letters is, ‘The Notebook’ and I’m sure that there are others. It’s romantic to use letters as a timeline to tell your relationship story later.
Get Ready from the Inside-Out
I believe that we manifest things- including love, from the inside out. This means that when you align your thoughts, feelings, and actions with what you really want, you are likely to manifest it. This also means removing all competing resistance or noise, like limiting beliefs, related fears, low self-esteem, past relationship baggage or familial blueprints that don’t match the relationship that you’d like to create. My first book, ‘Dating from the Inside Out: Using the law of Attraction in Matters of the Heart, published by Simon and Schuster walks you through this whole process, with customized exercises that you can do from home. You have the time now and no excuses. You can order the book on Amazon and do a chapter daily, writing in your journal or notebook. This way you are ready within. Then when the outside becomes available to you again, you can go out and attract your best match quickly. Try it out and let me know if it helps.
It’s clear that this situation sucks, but are there any other positive takeaways?
One thought I had is that this kind of brings back that old-fashioned idea of getting to know someone slowly first, from the inside-out. You’ll get to know them on a soul level before the physical one. Remember that you can take the steps that are possible now and that good thing come to those who wait, and to those who continue to put themselves out there in little ways.
Also, research shows that when you go on a scary ride or are put in a scary situation together, you’re more likely to fall in love. So, maybe the circumstances could work in your advantage that way too.
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