Are Marriages Faring or Failing During Quarantine?

Mar 30, 2020

Today a friend brought my attention to the fact that newspapers are saying that divorce filings are up by 40 percent as couples spend time together in quarantine. Divorce requests currently can’t be processed fast enough in China, as couples come out of quarantine.

Trauma and fear can bring out our worst sides and make us defensive.  Old resentments get exacerbated and people don’t have space to process things alone and to cool down.

As a couples counselor and coach, I am always on the side of that relationship. I’m pulling for it to get stronger or at least to remain in place.  So, here are 12 things to keep in mind that might help:

• Sometimes Adults Need a Time-Out Too
• Avoid Doing The 4 Horsemen & What to do Instead
• Think About Your Kids
• Don’t Make Major Decisions When Upset
• Look for the Wounded Child in Your Mate
• Learn How to Self-Soothe
• Do Something that Raises Your Vibration
• Spend Some Time Remembering the Good Memories & Good Things about Your Mate
• Consider Marriage Counseling or Couples coaching online
• Practice Meditation or Some Sort of Relaxation
• Increase The Good
• Take Responsibility for Your Part

Remember you can get through this and it is not your baseline.  Be willing to look at the part that you are playing in this dance, instead of just playing ‘the blame game.’

You can get a copy of my new book, ‘Marriage and the Law of Attraction: The Secret to Creating Your Perfect Relationship,’ on Amazon.  It walks you through how to improve your marriage from the inside-out without expecting your partner to change.  It will help you recognize all the ways you can powerfully create the relationship you want, by creating your marriage from the inside- out.  There's no time like the present.

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